Positives of dating a single mom
All she heard as a newly single mother was that no one, especially men who didn't have their own kids, would want to date a single parent.
But she proved that theory wrong when she met a man on Match who absolutely adored her sons.
But if you take away who we are as people, what remains is our differing positions in life; I’m a single mother and he’s a childless dude.
It’s a huge disparity that can create a lot of discord without the right level of understanding.
That relationship lasted for three years, and it didn't end because Lamb was a mom.
It ended for the same reason many relationships end: because they didn't mesh.
We don’t even have the freedom to make love, cuddle, and sleep next to each other whenever we so desire. If I get hurt, I don’t function well, and that affects my parenting, which in turn affects my child, and all I want to do is protect my child. I’ve acquired a lot of strength and resilience in life, but it doesn’t mean that my vulnerability to love has waned.
When I’m upset with you, my kid can feel it in my energy. I have to constantly remind myself that you do not share my responsibilities nor my past experiences.
I understand this is a difficult concept to remember, but it’s the truth. When I’m so consumed in my own responsibilities, I get frustrated when you don’t understand my anguish.
"People change when the baby comes, and sometimes marriages can't recover," she says.
"When you're a mom, it changes every sector of your dating life and who you choose to spend time with."Kaywanda Lamb, a single mom of two boys who coaches other single moms on dating and relationships, had a similar experience.
"I had the time of my life and I proved that a single guy with no kids will date a single mom," she says.