In invalidating dating put ones self out there
To handle these inconveniences, during the genesis of their disorder, the pathological narcissist divided the world into two extremes: the good and the bad. And those who validate this view are of value to the narc, often idealised.
However, anyone who does not support this view is rejected, devalued and assigned the ‘all bad’ label.
It works every time until you wise up to their game.
It is so effective because through the abuse, the narcissist has been training you to react emotionally to any triggering that targets your vulnerabilities.
This article is the first instalment in a two-part series on invalidation and narcissism.
In this piece we expose why they do it, and how to spot it in action.
These social needs are just as essential as other survival needs like food, shelter, and safety.
Maintaining their fragile make-believe world depends on reinforcing beliefs held that they are ‘perfect’.
And this is the foundation of narcissistic invalidation.
In their minds, by denying you, in relation to whatever, means you cannot catch them out on their own denial about who they really are.
It is the default modus operandi for pathological narcissists, underpinning all forms of abuse, whether physical, psychological, mental, or sexual.
The effects are horrendously damaging and disempowering. After all, when you’ve been emptied of your identity, full compliance to the narcissist’s demands is almost guaranteed. BUT…the very fact you are reading this now means you are not down and out. And in this battle to reclaim your life from narcissism, raising your awareness of when they are abusing you, sets in motion your release from the nightmare.
If yes, you know all too well the obliteration that inevitably comes from narcissistic invalidation.